Coaching People Through Grief - GrievingTeens™

Mission Statement

The purpose of Grieving Teens™ is:

1) To help, coach, and encourage youth in the process of grieving.
2) To offer comfort and support from a caring adult in the context of a small
group of their peers.  
3) To encourage Christian youth to share their personal hope in the group and help those without final answers to consider the hope of life beyond the grave the Resurre
ction of Christ. 
4) To be there (in the lives of young people) at a critical moment as they cope with not only the primary loss (the death or divorce) but also the many secondary losses that are inevitable (moving, loss of home friends, and security).

The vision of Grieving Teens is to challenge Churches and Christian Youth organizations to recruit, train, and develop a grief ministry in every high school and college in the world.

What is grief?  What is my responsibility?

Grief is a process (whether it comes in stages, phases, or tasks is a matter of perspective) that affects the whole person (physically, emotionally, socially, and spiritually) and is a response to loss.  This program chooses to see it in phases that have a task component for the griever.  This means that you have a responsibility to work through your grief.  These tasks have been taken from J. William Worden's Grief Counseling and Grief Therapy.  The tasks are as follows;

Task I      Accept the Reality of the Loss
Task II     Work Through the Pain of Grief
Task III    Adjust to a World Without the Deceased or Lost
                A. External Adjustments
                B. Internal Adjustments
                C. Spiritual Adjustments
Task V     Emotionally Relocate the Lost or Deceased & Move on With Life

Counseling Principles of Grief Groups @ Grieving Teens™

1. Help the Youth Face the Loss
2. Help the Youth to Identify and Experience Feelings
3. Assist in Living Without the Deceased
4. Help Find Meaning in the Loss
5. Facilitate Emotional Relocation of the Loss
6. Provide Time To Grieve
7. Help Youth Understand Normal in the Midst of Loss
8. Allow for Individual Differences
9. Examine Defenses and Coping Styles
10.  Identify Pathology and Refer

GrievingTeens™ Grief Groups

Purpose: Emotional support, education, social support, and spiritual support
Structure: The groups are open-ended groups available for as long as the support is needed.
Logistics: The grief group size is from 1- 12 people with similar interests and losses.  The groups meet from 30 min to an hour once a week.
Pre Screening of students is preferred for group placement when there are more than one group.  Often times a friend will bring a student that has lost his mother for example.

Ground Rules:
a. Members of the group are expected to be on time.
b. What is said in the group is to stay in the group. No exceptions.
c. Everyone gets equal time to talk.
d. People are free to share what they want to share.
e. The role of a group member is not to give advise but to listen.
Leadership of Groups: The leadership is real but passive enough to allow students to feel comfortable.
Group Dynamics:  
1. Students want inclusion to feel a part of a group that they feel that they "fit in".
2. They need to feel that, "I am important member of the group."
3. They need to feel cared for by the group.

PO Box 14370, Palm Desert, CA 92255
Tax ID # 27-4256935
We are a 501 (c) 3 tax exempt